They are perfect for
each other!
OK. So, many of us in Israel have had to endure
this often awkward, sometimes painful experience, due to the good intentions of
our Hebrew speaking friends.
It's a bit less
awkward when the he and the she immediately see what's going on, and
immediately share their suspicions with each other by simultaneous facial
expressions. It's usually at a Shabbat
meal, and sometimes a stealth shidduch attempt.
The forced couple leave the Shabbat meal together, with forced smiles on
their faces. Then, when safely around
the corner, deep breaths are released, sometimes with a little laughter. Once in a while, they look at each briefly,
as if to suggest that maybe they should go out once.
Nah!
Then they come to
their senses, say, "nice meeting you," and part ways, never to see
each other, until the next time it happens.
Sometimes, though, it
doesn't end as well as the above scenario.
Sometimes, it's a complete disaster.
Disasters ensue when
one of the couple, is flattered by the suggestion of a shidduch, or smitten at
first sight.
When this happens, the
expression "The road to Hell is paved with 'good intentions'" lives
up to its full potential.
Yet, those 'good
intentions' are exactly why we are not being too hard on our native, Hebrew
speaking friends. This post should be
written in Hebrew. But, for now, we will
have to settle with warning those new to Israel, new to the dating scene, or new
to both, so that you can prepared for when you receive that innocent, Shabbat
meal invitation, from those friendly neighbors you don't know very well.
When you do get to
know them well enough, you can take on the responsibility for letting them
know, gently, that English speaking Jews around the same age cannot be assumed
to be perfect for each other.
That is a myth.
Shidduch Myth #2.
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