Showing posts with label Psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Psychology. Show all posts

Sunday, December 03, 2023

מה הכוונה של הביטוי ״יחד ננצח״? / What Does The Phrase "Together We Will Be Victorious" Mean?

כ׳ לחודש התשיעי תשפ״ד
English follows the Hebrew.

עשר אגורות (2¢):
האם זאת אומרת "יחד ננצח" בהשמדת חמאס סופית?

האם זאת אומרת "יחד ננצח" בפדיון כל בני הערובה שלנו?

האם זאת אומרת "יחד ננצח" מול כל האיומים הקיומיים שנותרו על מדינת ישראל?

מי נכלל ב"יחד" של הביטוי הזה שבאופנה היום? בעלי אזרחות ישראלית הלא יהודים? הערבים? הדרוזים? הצ'רקסים? הנוצרים דוברי רוסית ואוקראינית שבמקרה יש להם סבא יהודי אחד?

מה עם העובדים הזרים? מה עם המסתננים האפריקאים, שבג״ץ מצליח למנוע מהממשלה מלגרש אותם כבר מעל 10 שנים?

ומה עם הנוצרים האוונגליסטים המתגוררים בשומרון, המאמינים שארץ ישראל היא שלהם בכל מקרה, ונראה שזה לא מפריע לרוב היהודים? כמה ישראלים אפילו יודעים שנוצרים מתגוררים כאן חופשי? האם הנוצרים האלה גם נכללים ב"יחד?"

האם ארה"ב נכללת ב״יחד״? אנו מעידים ברית עם עולם המערב (הנוצרים וגם הפרוגרסיבים)? כלומר ברית עם הגלות הנוכחית של אדום? ראו בראשית כה,ל; לג'א-מג.

אין ספק שצאצאיו של הערב רב נכללים ב"ביחד". הערב רב הם גיורי שקר שיצאו איתנו מארץ מצרים (שמות לח,יב), ומאז עושים לנו צרות. אין ספק שהערב רב יצר את התנועה הזו של אחדות כביכול, והביטוי המלווה לה.

ואת מי הממשלה "כוחות השלטון" מוציאים מהאלה שנכללים ב"יחד?"

החרדים והמתנחלים שמאמינים ש״חוקי התורה קודמין לחוקי האדם״?

החרדים שמאיימים אותם פעם אחר פעם באלימות פיזית, בהוצאת הילדים מבתים שאינם מוכנים לתת לילדים לעבור את שטיפת המוח הממלכתית, ובעונש מאסר בגין סירוב לשרת בצה"ל?

המתנחלים שהמחבלים הישמעאלים (הערביים) מתקיפים אותם אפילו ברגע הזה ושתחת איום נוסף על ידי אוסף הנשק של שכניהם הישמעאלים, מתחת לאף של ממשלת ישראל? ...או הממשלה כן יודעת את הזה?

אם מסתכלים למי שנכלל ב"יחד" אז אי אפשר לומר ש"יחד ננצח" אומרת "יחד ננצח" במאבק להקים מדינה יהודית אמיתית. ואין צריך לומר ממלכה יהודית.

בעבר, האסטרטגיה של כוחות השלטון הייתה ״הפרד ומשול״ באצעות עידוד מחלוקות בין קהילות, החילונים, הדתיים הדתיים הלאומיים והחרדים.

ולכן אולי פירושו "יחד ננצח" בעצם...

"יחד" = מספר האנשים שעוברים שטיפת המוח בהצלחה יעלה.

"אנחנו" = כוחות השלטון "ינצחו" במאבק להשאר בשלטון.

זו פשוט גירסה חדשה של מבצע פסיכולגי ישן.

(L to R) 1. Together we will be victorious 2. Together we will be victorious! 3. Together we will be victorious in Gaza
(The letters for Gaza are also an acronym for ״with God's help.״)
Thanks to Tomer Devorah for the graphic.

Esser Agaroth (2¢):
Does it mean "we will be victorious" against Hamas, once and for all?

Does it mean "we will be victorious" in redeeming all of our hostages?

Does it mean "we will be victorious" against all remaining existential threats to the State of Israel?

Who is included in the "together" part of this catchphrase? Non-Jewish, holders of Israeli citizenship? Arabs? Druze? Circassians? Russian and Ukrainian speaking Christians who happen to have a Jewish grandparent?

What about foreign workers? What about African insurgents, the deportation of whom the Israeli Supreme Court has somehow been able to block for over 10 years?

And what about the Evangelical Christians residing in Samaria, who believe that the Land of Israel is theirs anyways, and most Jews do not seem to be bothered by this, assuming they even know they are here? Are they also included in "together?"

Is the U. S. included in the together? An alliance with The West, Christians and progressives alike, that is the Jewish People's current exile of Edom (See Gen. 25:30; 36:1-43)?

No doubt the descendants of the Erev Rav (See Ex. 38:12) are included in the "together," the mixed-multitude, false converst who left Egypt with us, and who have been causing us trouble ever since. The Erev Rav is undoubtedly behind this quasi-unity movement, and its associated catchphrase.

And who does the government do "the powers that be" exclude from their understanding of "together?"

Those Haredim (ultra-orthodox) and settlers who hold Torah Law above State law?

The same Haredim who have been threatened time and time again with physical violence, removal of children from homes not conducive to State indoctrination, and prison time for refusing to serve in the Israeli Defense Forces [IDF]?

Those settlers who are attacked by Arab terrorists in Judea and Samaria, as I write this, and who under additional threat by their Ishmaelite neighbors' collection of weapons, under the noses of the Israeli government? ...or maybe not?

Considering who is included in the "together," it certainly does not mean "together we will be victorious" in creating a truly Jewish Kingdom, let alone a Jewish State.

In the past, the strategy of the powers that be has been to divide and conquer, creating rifts between secular, Religious Zionist, and Haredi Jews.

Perhaps "Together We Be Victorious" actually means:

"Together" = the indoctrinated masses will increase in number.

"We" = those in power "will be victorious" in staying in power.

Just a new twist on an old psy. opp.

Friday, April 09, 2021

פרשת שמיני: עופות נוצה נוהרים יחד / Parashat Shemini: Birds of a Feather

ערב שבת קודש פר' שמיני תשפ״א
English follows the Hebrew.
וְאֶת-אֵלֶּה תְּשַׁקְּצוּ מִן-הָעוֹף, לֹא יֵאָכְלוּ שֶׁקֶץ הֵם: אֶת-הַנֶּשֶׁר, וְאֶת-הַפֶּרֶס, וְאֵת, הָעָזְנִיָּה. וְאֶת-הַדָּאָה--וְאֶת-הָאַיָּה, לְמִינָהּ. טו אֵת כָּל-עֹרֵב, לְמִינוֹ. וְאֵת בַּת הַיַּעֲנָה, וְאֶת-הַתַּחְמָס וְאֶת-הַשָּׁחַף; וְאֶת-הַנֵּץ, לְמִינֵהוּ. וְאֶת-הַכּוֹס וְאֶת-הַשָּׁלָךְ, וְאֶת-הַיַּנְשׁוּף. וְאֶת-הַתִּנְשֶׁמֶת וְאֶת-הַקָּאָת, וְאֶת-הָרָחָם. וְאֵת, הַחֲסִידָה, הָאֲנָפָה, לְמִינָהּ; וְאֶת-הַדּוּכִיפַת, וְאֶת-הָעֲטַלֵּף. (ויקרא יא,יג-יט)
עשר אגורות (2¢):
העורב לא כשר לאכילה.



היונה כן כשרה לאכילה.



נשלחו אליי הסרטונים האלה. הם דומים לסרטוני אילוף החתולה שלי. הבנראה לי שהביטוי הזה "עופות נוצה נוהרים יחד" לא שייך כל-כך לעורב. אלא אולי העורב, הידוע כציפור נבונה, לומד לעקוב מאחרי היונים מפני שבני אדם (מקורות האוכל) נמשכים לציפורים החמודות כאלה ודווקא לא לעורבים.

אני לא בטוח.

בכל מקרה, הסרטונים נמצאים כאן כדי להציג את האפשרות ללכוד יונים בקלות למען השרדנות אם (חס וחלילה) בעתיד תתקיים בעיה באספקת המזון במצב מלחמה או דומה כזה.

כנראה חל איסור לצוד ולשחוט יונים לפי חוקי מדינת ישראל. אני לא בטוח. לפחות יכול להיות איסור כזה באזורים ו/או בעונות מסויימים. ולכן כדאי לברר את העניין לפני שיוצאים לשטח לצוד או אפילו להאכיל את הציפורים.

And these you will have in detestation among the fowl; they shall not be eaten, they are a detestable thing: the great vulture, and the bearded vulture, and the osprey; and the kite, and the falcon after its kinds; every raven after its kinds; and the ostrich, and the night-hawk, and the sea-mew (seagull), and the hawk after its kinds; and the little owl, and the cormorant, and the great owl; and the horned owl, and the pelican, and the carrion-vulture; and the stork, and the heron after its kinds, and the hoopoe, and the bat. (Lev. 11:13-19)
Esser Agaroth (2¢):
The crow is not kosher for Jews to eat; the pigeon is.

The above videos were sent to me. They are similar to my kitten training videos

It seems that the phrase "Birds of a feather flock together" doesn't quite fit the crow so much. But perhaps the crow, well-known as a particularly intelligent bird, learns to follow the pigeons because humans, ie. sources of food, are attracted to them, and not necessarily to crows. 

I'm not sure.

In any case, the videos are here to show the possibility of capturing pigeons easily for survival's sake, if, God forbid, a future problem with obtaining food during a state of war or similar situation.

In the meantime, I suggest that it could very well be against the law to hunt and slaughter pigeons in the State of Israel. I'm not sure. At least there may be restrictions in certain areas and/or seasons. And so, I recommend getting clarification about this before going out to hunt or even feed the birds.

Tuesday, September 01, 2020

הטיסה מתל אביב לאבו דאבי עוד סמל לתלות שיתופית / Flight from Tel-Aviv to Abu Dhabi: Another Symbol of our Co-Dependence

י"ב לחודש השישי תש"פ
English follows the Hebrew.
YNET: היסטוריה בנתב"ג: הבוקר - טיסה LY971 מישראל לאבו דאבי
משלחת ישראלית-אמריקנית תמריא בטיסה ישירה של אל על - הראשונה אי פעם של חברה ישראלית לנסיכות. סעודיה אישרה למטוס לעבור בשטחה האווירי. המטוס המצויד במערכת הגנה מפני טילים עוטר במילים "שלום" בעברית, בערבית ובאנגלית. על כרטיס העלייה למטוס נכתב "עושים היסטוריה". שידור ישיר מנתב"ג
איתמר אייכנר, איתי בלומנטל:  31.08.20 (המשך...)
עשר אגורות (2¢):
אתמול בבוקר [אמרו לישראלים] להתרגש בגלל הטיסה ההיסטורית של אל על לאבו דאבי, שבאיחוד האמירויות הערביות ושהטיסה הזו סמל גדול של שלום המתפתח בין מדינת ישראל לעולם הערבי.

עכשיו, נא להסתכל למילה "שלום" ולתורגמים של שבמטוס עצמו.

הערבית נמצאת למעלה כדי להרגיע את הערבים (קראו: קושן טאָכעס / לנשק התחת), ומכריזה על הדרגה היחסית שלהם במערכת היחסים החדשה הזו. האם העברית הייתה הראשונה בטיסת של איחוד האמירויות הערביות? לא נראה לי.

Photo: Airport Authority / צילום: רשות שדות התעופה

אנגלית במקום השני בכדי לפרסם כי ארה"ב תמיד תהיה בין ישראל לערבים ומוסלמים אחרים לשלוט את המערכת היחסים שלהם. (קראו: ארה"ב / אדום / עשו  מאלץ את ישראל להיכנע למען השלום שלו עם ישמעאל / ערבים).

העברית היא במיקום התחתון. מה אכפת לנו?! אנחנו כל כך נרגשים שאיזה אומה ערבית אפילו תכיר בזכותנו להתקיים! ... מפני שלא מספיק לנו שאנחנו עצמנו מכירים בזכותנו להתקיים.

עכשיו, תסתכלו לדגלים. משלחת ארצות הברית מלווה את משלחת ישראל לאיחוד האמירויות. בגלל הנוחות של לטוס לישראל בדרך? מתוך חברות ובכדי ליעץ את משלחת ישראל בדרך? לא. אלא בכדי להחזיק את היד שלנו, כמו אבא שאוחז ביד של ילדו בזמן שהם חוצים את הרחוב, ולהפליק ביד כשהוא מתנהג לא יפה באמצע הרחוב המסוכן. אפילו יש דגל ארה"ב במסכת רה"מ.


Photo / צילום: EPA

ומה המחיר העסקה הזו? לדחות את סיפוח חלק משמעותי ממולדתנו ללא הגבלת זמן (קראו: לבטל) , שהושבעה לנו באופן אלוהי, ושנכבשה על ידינו בתשכ״ז / 1967 (במדבר לג,נ-נו), ואין בזכותנו להחליט למכור אותה פומבית לכל המרבה במחיר.

ומה אנחנו אמורים לקבל בתמורה לנטישת מולדתנו, המתנה היקרה הזו מהקדוש ברוך הוא, שעליה נלחמנו בצורה קשה והקרבנו?

הזדמנויות לסחרות? אולי. אבל אני בהחלט לא זוכר שום דבר בתורה המתיר לנו למכור את מולדתנו להזדמנויות כאלה. (משנה תורה, הל׳ ע״ז י,א-ט) אה, נכון. לא אכפת למדינת ישראל על התורה, אחת משתי המורשות שלנו, השנייה היא מולדתנו.

השלב הבא בדרך לשלום עם מדינות ישמעאל אחרות? אל תקראו ״שלום״ אלא "של או״ם". אם המחיר של ההסכם עם איחוד האמירויות הערביות הוא לוותר על שליטה מלאה על חלק גדול של המולדת היהודית, לוותור על חלקים בנגב ולמסור אותם לעברים הנקראים פלסטינים, להקים להם חיבורי כביש מהיר ומסילות רכבת בכדי לעזור להם להתאחד, אז מה יהיה המחיר לשלום עם סעודיה? אני מפחד לחשוב על זה.

לא. הפרס הכי הגדול של עסקה זו עם איחוד האמירויות הערביות הוא יותר אהבה ואישור זכות להתקיים הצפוים מהגויים. ולמרות המניעים הנסתרים של לאיחוד האמירויות הערביות יש להרבה יהודים אפילו לדתיים לאומיים (ציוניים) תקוה גדולה שהאירופים וגויים מרחבי העולם עומדים להראות לנו אהבה, וסוף סוף יאמינו שאנו אומה בדיוק כמו כל האומות הנשארות!

הממ ... אנחנו כמו כל אומות האחרות? נשמע לי ממש כגישה די מתבוללת.

תלות השיתופית המשותפת שלנו היא ברמת פתולוגית כל כך גבוהה שאנחנו מזדרזים לכרות את הידיים כדי להציל את האצבעות. עכשיו, נא לקחת רגע לקלוט את שיגעון המטאפורה ההיא.

וכמובן, כאן יואל חיים (ג'רד) קושנר נמצא (לעיל). הוא היהודי הדתי שמחתים את תעודת הכשרות שלו, כאילו חותמת האישור שלו, על העסקה הזו. עוד יהודי דתי אבי ברקוביץ' עומד לידו.

הרבה יהודים בבארץ המזדהים כ "דתיים "ציוניים" ו / או פעילי הסברה מתפתלים באקסטזה על עסקה זו. ממתי הגדרת הציונות כוללת מכירה פומבית של מולדתנו? תשובה: מעולם לא.

הגיע לכם הזמן לחשוב לאחור על גירוש היהודים ומסירת אדמות לערבים בשנת תשס״ה / 2005.

עכשיו, תסבירו לי שוב מה הקשר בין מסירת חלקי ממולדתנו אשר הושבעה לנו על ידי הקדוש ברוך הוא ל"ציונות".

רה"מ נתניהו, ברקוביץ, וקושנר - התמונה מבוססת על צילום ע״י מתי שטרן, שגרירות ארה״ב, ירושלים
Kushner, Berkowitz, and PM Netanyahu - image based on photo by Matty Stern, US Embassy, Jerusalem
YNET: Countdown to history: Israel awaits first El Al flight to UAE
El Al flight LY971 is set to take off at 10:30am and will fly over Saudi airspace; the plane is carrying a delegation of Israeli and U.S. officials for a two-day visit where agreements on civic and economic cooperation are expected to be signed 
Itamar Eichner, Itay Blumenthal: 08.31.20 (cont.)
Esser Agaroth (2¢):
Yesterday morning Israelis [were told to] look forward to the historic flight of El Al Airlines from Tel Aviv to Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates [UAE], a grand symbol of the burgeoning peace between the State of Israel and the Arab world.

Now, look at the placement of the words for "peace" on the airplane itself.

Arabic is on top to placate the Arabs (Read: kuschen tuchus), proclaiming their relative placement in this nascent relationship. Would Hebrew have been first on an Emirates Airlines flight? I sincerely doubt it.

English follows to show that the U. S. will always be the broker between Israel and Arabs and other Muslims. (Read: the U. S.-Edom/Esau calls the shots will force Israel to capitulate for the sake of his own peace with Ishmael/Arabs).

Hebrew is last, because we're just so thrilled that an Arab nation would even recognize our right to exist! ...because it is apparently not good enough for us to recognize our own right to exist.

Now, look at the flags. The U. S. delegation will accompany Israel's delegation to the UAE. Out of the convenience of stopping off in Israel first? Out of friendship and to give Israel a pep talk on the way? No. Rather to hold our hand, like a parent holding a child's hand while crossing the street, and smacking that hand when misbehaving in the middle of said, dangerous street. Did you notice there is even an American flag on PM Netanyahu's mask?

And this deal with the UAE comes at what price? Postponing indefinitely (Read: giving up on) the annexation of a significant portion of our homeland, Divinely Promised to us, reconquered by us in תשכ״ז/1967 (Num. 33:50-56), and not for us to decide to cut apart and auction off to the highest bidder.

And what do we get in return for forsaking of our homeland, this precious gift from the Holy One, Blessed Be He, for which we fought so valiantly and sacrificed?

Economic opportunities? Maybe. But, I certainly do not recall anything in Torah Law allowing such an exchange to take place (Mishneh Torah, Laws of Avodah Zarah 10:1-9). Oh, that's right. The State of Israel does not concern itself with Torah, one of our two morashot (heritages), the second being our homeland.

A stepping stone to peace with other Ishmaelite nations? More like "piece." If the price for an agreement with the [UAE] is giving up on full control over the heartland of the Jewish Homeland, and giving up segments of the Negev, as well as the construction of freeway and rail connections to help the Palestinians Pseudostinians unify, then what will the price be for peace with Saudi Arabia? I shudder to think.

No. The grand prize of this deal with the UAE is the additional love and validation expected from non-Jews. Even those Jews who know that the UAE has ulterior motives have high hopes that Europeans and other non-Jews from around the world will throw love at us, and recognize that we are just like every other nation!

Hmm... Like every other nation? Sounds like a rather assimilationist attitude to me.

Our collective co-dependence is at such a high, pathological level that we are quick to cut off our hands to save our fingers. Now, just take a moment to let the insanity of that metaphor sink in.

And, of course, here is Jared Kushner (above), the token Orthodox Jew putting his heksher, his stamp of approval. Another Orthodox Jew, Avi Berkowitz, stands close by.

Many Jews in Israel identifying themselves as "Religious Zionists" and/or of the Hasbara [Israel PR] crowd are writhing in ecstasy over this deal. Since when does the definition of Zionism include the auctioning off of our Homeland? Oh, that's right. It doesn't.

That is your cue to think back to the expulsion of Jews and handing over of land to Hamas in תשס״ה/2005.

Now, tell me again how giving up parts of our God-given homeland is for the sake of "Zionism."

Friday, August 14, 2020

תלות שיתופית של עם ישראל: ההסכם עם איחוד האמרויות הערביות / Israel's Collective Co-Dependence: Agreement with the United Arab Emirates

ערב שבת קודש פר׳ ראה תש״פ
English follows the Hebrew.
YNET: ישראל ואיחוד האמירויות בדרך לכינון יחסים רשמיים
ישראל ואיחוד האמירויות סיכמו לקדם כינון יחסים רשמיים בתיווך אמריקני. טראמפ: "הסכם שלום". גורמים בבית הלבן ובאיחוד האמירויות: "הוסכם להקפיא את הסיפוח". גורם מדיני בכיר: "הריבונות עדיין על הפרק". נתניהו ימסור הצהרה ב-20:00 שתועבר בשידור חי ב-ynet: "יום היסטורי" 
איתמר אייכנר, דניאל סלאמה, מורן אזולאי ואליאור לוי, 13.08.20 
בתיווך אמריקני, הסכימו הערב (חמישי) ישראל ואיחוד האמירויות לכונן יחסים רשמיים. לפי נשיא ארה"ב דונלד טראמפ, שתי המדינות יחתמו על הסכם שלום. עוד סוכם כי ישראל ואיחוד האמירויות יפתחו שגרירויות זו בשטחה של זו, ויפעילו קווי תעופה ישירים בין המדינות (המשך...)
עשר אגורות (2¢):
לעזוב את ראש הממשלה נתניהו שמנסה להציל את התחת הפוליטית שלו.

לעזוב את ראש הממשלה נתניהו שלדעתי מעולם לא התכוון לספח את יהודה ושומרון מלכתחילה.

לעזוב את הימינים וגם הכאילו ימינים הבועטים בעצמם על כך שהצביעו לנתניהו, ... ולכן טעו שוב פעם.

לעזוב את הבכיינים השמאלים על כך שטראמפ ונתניהו ימצאו חן בעיני כל העולם. הם בוכים מהסיבות הלא מוצדקות, מחוסר השתתפות הפסליסטינאים הערבים המגוררים ביהודה ושומרון בתהליך משא ומתן עם איחוד האמירויות. דרך אגב, לבכות ככה בכלל לא יפה.

מבוסס על תמונה ע״י סוזן וואלש, 25.03.19
Based on a photo by Susan Walsh, March 25, 2019
בואו נלמוד על העניין הכי חשוב כאן, תפיסת חיים השיתופית שלנו כאומה.

אנשי ה"ימינים" מאוד רוצים לקבל אהבה ולהתקבל ע״י אמריקה והנוצרים. אנשי השמאל מאוד רוצים להתקבל כאחת כל האותות העולם, ולקבל אהבה מהם.

שני קבוצות יהודים האלה חיים בגלות אדום (רומא / המערב) באפון נפשי.

יואל חיים ״ג׳רד״ קושנר
Yoel Chaim "Jared" Kushner
מתי כבר נתחיל נתחיל להחלים מחלת תלות השיתופית שלנו, ונתחיל לאהוב את עצמנו ולצדיק את חיינו מבפנים? ומתי ננסה כבר להשיג אהבה ולהתקבל ע״י הקב"ה?

אין עם אחר בכל העולם הזה תלוי באהבה והתקבלות מבחוץ, כל שכן היהודים המגוררים בגולה. לאחר 72 שנים של שליטה [אפשרית] במולדתנו והתקבצות בה, אנו עדיין חיים עם ראש הגולה וממשיכים לכורע ולהשתחוות לגוים.

אם אנחנו רוצים לספח או למסור שטח, אז זו צריכה להיות הבחירה שלנו. (ברור שאסור למסור שום חלק ארץ ישראל לגוים ... אני פשוט כותב תיאורטית) אבל זו לא הבחירה שלנו, נכון? כשאנחנו תקועים באופן פסיכולוגי, ונאלצים להתחשב את הצרכים והרגשות של אחרים עד כדי כך.

חלקכם יאמרו כי ההסכם הזה הוא פשוט מעשי. הלוואי.

כתבתי "נאלצים" כוונה.
YNET: Israel, UAE to launch diplomatic ties in return for halt to annexation
Netanyahu lauds 'historic day'; White House says agreement sealed in Thursday phone call between president, prime minister and crown prince; officials from both nations to meet in coming weeks on bilateral deals 
News Agencies, Ynet 08.13.20

The United Arab Emirates will launch full diplomatic ties with Israel in an agreement that will see Jerusalem halt its plans for annexation of West Bank land, the leaders of Israel, the UAE and U.S. said Thursday. (cont.)

Esser Agaroth (2¢):
Forget about Prime Minister Netanyahu trying to save his political tuchus.

Forget about him [IMHO] never intending to annex Yehudah and Shomron (Judea and Samaria) in the first place.

Forget about the right [and the "right"] kicking themselves for having voted for Netanyahu, ...yet again.

And forget about the left whining about Trump and Netanyahu being made to look good, which is one of those rare instances where I would have to agree. They are whining for the wrong reasons, the lack of Palestinian Pseudostinian involvement in the process. Plus, whining is never attractive.

Let's take a look a the real issue at play here, the issue of our collective psychology as a nation.

The “right” is so very desperate to obtain love and validation from ‘Murica and Christians. The “left” is equally desperate to be accepted to be like all other nations, and to obtain love and validation from everyone else.

Both are rooted in the exile of Edom (Rome/The West).

When will we finally start recovering from our collective co-dependence, and start loving and validating ourselves? And dare I ask, start seeking love and validation from The Almighty?

No other people on this planet depends on love and validation from the outside, like we do, even more so, those of us residing outside of the Land of Israel. After 72 years of being in [theoretical] control of our own homeland, and gathering together within it, we are still living in an exile mentality of kowtowing to non-Jewish nations.

If we want to annex OR give away land (not that it is ours to give away... I am simply writing theoretically), then it should be our choice. But it isn’t our choice, is it? Not when we are stuck psychologically, compelled to consider the needs and feelings of others.

Some of you will say this agreement is simply a pragmatic one. If only that were the case.

I wrote "compelled" for a reason.

Thursday, March 05, 2020

להגיד שלום או נמסטה? / Should Jews say "Shalom" or "Namaste?"

י' לחודש השנים עשר תש"פ
English follows the Hebrew.

ראש הממשלה בנימין נתניהו ומשה בר סימן טוב מנכ"ל משרד הבראיות.
(צילום: אליבר פיטוסי פלאש 90)
PM Binyamin Netanyahu and Moshe Bar Siman Tov, Secretary General, Ministry of Health
(Photo: Elibar Fitusi Flash 90)
ערוץ 20: האם צמרת המדינה תידרש להיכנס לבידוד?
ראש הממשלה בנימין נתניהו היום: אתם יכולים להגיד "נמסטה", או אפשר להגיד "שלום" אבל תמצאו את הדרך, כל דרך, להמנע מלחיצות ידיים. 
יפי הלוי 04/03/20
עשר אגורות (2¢):
ומה הפירוש של "נמסטה?"

"אני מקדה לחלק האלוקי בתוכך."

ואין צריך לומר הרבה כתות בנצרות מתפללים עם כפות ידיים ביחד ככה. ואם המעשה הזה אפילו לא עבודה זרה בדיוק, אכן זה מנהג גוי ואין לי שום ספק שדברים כאלה מדריכים אותנו בדרך להתבוללות.

"או אפשר להגיד "שלום"?

למה לא להגיד שלום לכתחילה? לדעתי מפני שהיום להגיד נמסטה הוא מעשה מאוד פופולרי בעולם. וכפי המצב הפסיכולוגי (ורוחני?) שלנו שלעתים קרובות אנחנו מעדיפים את קבלה מהגויים מקבלה עצמית. קוראים למצב הזה ״תלות שיתופית.״

יש יהודים היו שמחים מאוד להתקבל כאחד מאומות העולם.

נגיף הקורונה מסוכן אבל הכוחות שבשלטה שמשמשים בה ככלי התבוללות הם יותר מסוכנים.

YNET: Israel adds five countries to coronavirus air travel restrictions
PM claims Israel has done more than any other western country to contain spread of the virus and therefore is in the best shape possible; Advised Israelis to refrain from shaking hands and suggested they adopt the traditional Indian greeting, Namaste 
Sivan Hilaie 03.04.20
Esser Agaroth (2¢):
And what does "Namaste" mean?

"I bow to the divine part within you."

And needless to say, this is how many Christian denominations pray, with palms together like this. And even if this is not exactly avodah zarah (foreign worship), it is indeed a non-Jewish custom and without a doubt these are just the kind of things which lead us along the road to assimilation.

"Or can we say Shalom?"

Why not say Shalom in the first place? In my opinion, to say "Namaste" is very popular in the world today. And in our collective psychological (and spiritual?) state as Jews, we often prefer to seek acceptance from non-Jews rather than accepting ourselves. This is a symptom of co-dependence.

Some Jews are quite happy to be accepted as one of the non-Jewish nations of the world.

The Corona virus is dangerous. But the powers that be who use the virus as tool for assimilation are more dangerous than the virus itself

Thursday, February 14, 2019

Speaking of Clients...

ט' לחודש השנים עשר תשע״ט

This post should probably be in Hebrew, too. But, the offensive person in question was an English speaker. So, for now, I'll stick with English.

Even though the person in question was in Haredi livush, PLEASE do not take this as an opportunity to Haredi-bash. Rather, this is an opportunity to be critical of some of those English speakers who identify as "therapists," both real and fake.

While on the bus to Tel Aviv, a man starts talking way too loudly on the phone. No, he wasn't [native] "Israeli," as you people like to refer to "them" vs. "us." He was speaking way too loudly in his native English.

Never heard anyone in Israel speak too loudly on the phone in English? Then you're just not paying attention,...ever.

Anyway, what is this guy talking about? The clients he saw today!

"I saw two couples today. One couple was from XXXXXX (community)...."

Who is he talking to? His consultant? His adviser? His own therapist?

Where on earth did he learn that this is appropriate to talk about clients in a public place? What kind of course in laws and ethics for therapists did he take? Did he even take any such class?

Quite frankly, this is tantamount to "acting-out of therapy."

Why does he even have to speak about his clients in a public place? I don't even think he was trying to show off.

Does he really think that no one will understand English? That since it's only a little demographic data, that makes it ok?

This is not even about risking the clients' confidentiality. Even one iota of data disrespects his clients. They are people, not subjects, and certainly not statistics.

See also:
You Are Not A Therapist!

Friday, November 02, 2018

היועץ המשפטי לממשלה אביחי מנדלבליט, מה עשית? / Attorney General Avichai Mandelblit, What have you done?

ערב שבת קודש פר׳ חיי שרה תשע״ט
English follows the Hebrew.
אביחי מנדלבליט
היועץ המשפטי לממשלה
(צילום: Prokurator11)
YNET: מנדלבליט קבע: "אין להרוס בית של מחבל שלוקה בנפשו"
טובה צימוקי, 31.10.18

היועמ"ש מסר לשר הביטחון: מחבל שסובל מבעיה נפשית לא מורתע מהאיום שצה"ל יהרוס את ביתו - הרתעה שלשמה ניתנת הסמכות להריסה. ליברמן מחה בעבר על הקביעה: "מעתה משפחתו של כל רוצח תנסה לייחס לו מצב נפשי"
עשר אגורות (2¢):
האם היועץ המשפטי לממשלה אביחי מנדלבליט מבין לגמרי את מה שהוא עושה עכשיו?

אולי הוא פוסק דין לפי חוקי מדינת ישראל בדיוק. אבל הוא גם מאשר את האסטרטגיה [לאכל-כך] החדשה עבור טרוריסטים ערבים:

השימוש רק בחולי נפש על מנת לבצע פיגועים, והם יצילו את המשפחות שלהם מכל סיכון של הריסת בתים שלהם.

תודה רבה, היועץ המשפטי לממשלה אביחי מנדלבליט. אתה יצאת מידי חובתך מבחינת התפקיד הממשלתי שלך. (בציניות)

נו? אז מה עכשיו?

Avichai Mandelblit
Attorney General
(Photo: Prokurator11)
YNET: AG rules out house demolition for mentally ill terrorists
Tova Tzimuki, 11.01.18

Mandelblit determines a terrorist who suffers from mental impairment 'would not have the ability to rationally consider the real possibility the home he lives in would be demolished, and consequently decide against carrying out the terror act we wish to deter him from committing.'
Esser Agaroth (2¢):
Does Attorney General Avichai Mandelblit fully understand what he has done?

Perhaps he rules according to the State of Israel's laws to the letter. However, he has also just affirmed a [not so] new strategy for Arab terrorists:

Use only mentally ill and disabled individuals to carry out terror attacks, and they save the families from any risk of their houses being destroyed.

Thank you, Attorney General Avichai Mandelblit for fulfilling your duty in the role of a government official. (eyes rolling)

Monday, July 17, 2017

Kitten Training 1

כ״ד לחודש הרביעי תשע״ז

Operant Conditioning is applied to modify behavior, either to increase it or to decrease it, through reinforcement or punishment.
Positive Reinforcement means adding a a desired stimulus to increase a behavior.

Negative Reinforcement is often confusing to people. It actually means to take something away, as oppose to mean something unpleasant. For example, putting on a seat belt takes away that annoying beeping sound, encouraging an increase in our seat belt putting on behavior.

Positive Punishment does not, in fact, mean something like making some each too uch ice cream. Rather, it means adding something undesirable, such as the proverbial, electric shock.

Negative Punishment means punishing by taking something away, such as your child's dessert, cell phone, or car privileges. Because maybe that'll teach 'im!
In the case of this kitten, I used food to increase the "coming close to me" behavior.



Other factors are involved, of course, such as the kitten's habituation (getting used) to my presence.

By pairing lip smacking/kissing sound (stimulus) with the food (positive reinforcement), and I can train this kitten to then come to me, in the absence of the reinforcement (food).


Wednesday, November 04, 2015

Rant: People and Situations which Irk Me

כ"ב לחודש השמיני תשע"ו

1. People at the store who are told how much their purchases cost, but continue packing them, instead of getting out their money to pay.

2. People who get in the Express line with way more than the limit.

3. Cashiers who let them get away with it.

4. Any store employee who is talking on the phone, or doing something else before taking my money, forcing me to wait unnecessarily.

5. Stupid people employed to educate our children.

6. Governments which hire stupid people to educate our children.

7. People who insist that my directions are wrong, even though the successfully arrived at their destination, only because of my directions.

8. People who ask questions repeatedly, even after I already gave them the answer, and then want to argue with me about how I'm wrong. (So, next time, don't bother asking me!)

9. Bosses who play their employees against each other.

10. Bosses who give their employees mixed messages.

11. Bosses who are "never wrong."

12. People who sing or play or play a musical instrument on the bus, or at a bus stop, because they know that we want to hear them play. (Actually, they just don't care.)

13. People who scream out what their reading on the bus,...because it's for our benefit.

14. People who take my inventory.

15. People who share their results of the inventory they took.

16. People who believe that I should actually care about the results of the inventory they took.

17. People who tell me how I am feeling, especially when they're wrong.

18. People who tell what I should or shouldn't do, like smile, especially when I don't know them, and were certainly not friends.

19. "Friends" whom I'm always the one calling to go hang out, and not only are never available, but never offer an alternative date and time to hang out.

20. "Friends" who hang out with me, only because  they're bored and they find me to be "entertaining."

21. People who expect to speak to me, because it's convenient for them, and couldn't care less whether or not it's convenient for me. (This is called "hijacking" someone's time.)

22. People who do not R. S. V. P.

23. Strangers who touch me, even though I have given absolutely no indication that it's OK to do so.

24. People who touch me, even though I have already, and specifically, told them not to.

25. People who consider something a fact, without supportive evidence. (Just call it a theory or hypothesis, and we're good.)

26. Inappropriate locker room behavior.

27. People who drive too fast in areas where they know there are children playing.

28. People who don't supervise their children.

29. People who don't take responsibility for their children's behavior. (It's all society's fault? Seriously?)

30. American tourists, who don't even bother to learn yes, no, please, and thank-you in the language of the countries where they're traveling.

31. Passive-aggressives.

32. Hypocrites.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015

Terrorists Or Freedom Fighters?

כ"ז לחודש החמישי תשע"ה

This is the bottom line of what they think.
Arutz 7: Israeli-Arab Actor Defends Hijacker: He Was No 'Terrorist'
Israeli Arab actor at premier of 'Sabena' says Black September hijacker who threatened to murder passengers was 'fighter' for 'stolen' land. 
Yoni Kempinski, 8/12/2015 
Award-winning Israeli Arab actor George Iskandar spoke with Arutz Sheva on Tuesday night at the premier screening of the film "Sabena" at Cinema City in Jerusalem, and claimed that the Black September terrorist he portrays in the film "isn't a terrorist." 

The film recreates the May 9, 1972 hijacking by four Black September terrorists of Sabena Flight 571, a passenger flight arriving from Vienna to Lod Airport with 90 passengers on board, and the ensuing heroic rescue mission by Israeli commandos - including future prime minister Binyamin Netanyahu. 
But Iskandar said, "I don't like this word 'terrorist.'"

Referring to Ali Taha Abu Sanina, who he plays in the movie, he said, "I don't call him a 'terrorist,' I call him a 'fighter,' he's a person who had something stolen from him, something taken from him, and he fights to get it back." 
"I can not agree or agree with the way in which he fought. But I don't think that a person who had something stolen from him and fights for it back can be called a 'terrorist,'" he said, terminologically justifying attacks on civilians with the "stealing" of land at Israel's foundation. (cont.)
Esser Agaroth (2¢):
Well, it seems that "Israeli Arab" actor George Iskandar believes that land was stolen at the State of Israel's foundation.

How many other "Israeli Arabs" feel the same way? For that matter, how many assimilated Jews feel the same way?

But, I digress...

It also seems that there is still a disagreement as to whether Arab terrorists with Jewish blood on their hands are terrorists or freedom fighters, simply because they have a reason behind their desire to annihilate the Jewish People, and not just attempting to do so for the heck of it.

Prime Minister Menachem Begin
(next to his secret police mugshot)
Former Israeli Prime Ministers Menachem Begin (Etzel) and Yitzhaq Shamir (Lechi) believed that the British were ruling over their land, and wanted to be rid of them in favor of a Jewish government. Were they terrorists or freedom fighters?

Since we have museums dedicated to the Etzel and Lechi, I guess that means that they were freedom fighters.

But, Arabs believe that this is their land, so why do we call them terrorists, and not freedom fighters?

Prime Minister Yitzhaq Shamir
(next to his wanted poster offering a reward for his capture)
The only justification for this differentiation is what the Torah says, that Eretz Yisra'el (Land of Israel) belongs to the Jews, and not the Arabs.

But, as long as we remain wishy-washy about this, and relate to only part of the Torah, and not to the entire Torah, we will continue to remain in this precarious position, of there doubt over our claim to Eretz Yisra'el.

Did we steal Arab land, or did we reconquer it? Why are we afraid to use this word "conquer?" The Arabs are not afraid to use it.

PLO military insignia
The Land cannot belong to both peoples. As we have see countless times in the past, the Arabs do not just want Yehudah, Shomron, and Azza (Judea, Samaria, and Gaza) alone.

They want it all, and they clearly do not want to share it with Jews, let alone allow Jews to be a part of its future, deMOCKratic goverment.

Our fellow, yet confused Jews, indoctrinated into Western, non-Jewish society, and constantly inundated with mixed messages from all around them, are looking for self-identity and self-esteem everything except authentic Judaism. After all, who would even think about search for self-identity and self-esteem in a place where the representatives appear to be just as confused as they are?

Whether searching for self-identity and self-esteem within the so-called "movements" of pseudo-Judaism, as an "American," like many German Jews did in the 1930's, by assimilating into Western culture, or by disappear into a shrine, an ashram, a church, or a mosque, these Jews are lost, and cannot blame them.

With whom would you side, one who is direct and committed to its beliefs, or one who is not?

Which of these sides would appear to you, to have a strong self-identity and high self-esteem?

Until we stand up and say directly that Eretz Yisrael belongs to the Jews, and not just "sort of," or "maybe so," or "partly," then we cannot expect our fellow Jews to stop siding with the Arabs' claim to our Land.

And so, I ask you, were Begin and Shamir terrorists or freedom fighters?

They were fighting for the freedom of our Land, Eretz Yisra'el, so the answer should be a no-brainer.

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For those versed in Talmud, see the beginning of the Talmud Bavli Babba Metzi'a. Then you will see what I mean.

Friday, October 17, 2014

Are You Prepared for Israel's Next Snow Storm?

ערב שבת קודש פר׳ בראשית תשע״ה

Last winter, when Israel was hit by one of the worst snow storms in its recent history, with about 19,000 homes losing electrical power. I was one of the lucky ones who did not. Yet, I think about what I would have done, if I had not been so lucky. Would I have been prepared to weather the storm? Will I be prepared for the next time snow or another surprise hits? Will you be prepared?

When I complain that Jerusalem winters are unbearable, my friends from New York, Chicago, Montreal, and northern domains, just laugh at me, and tell me that I don't not what real cold is like. When I tell you that I was born and raised in San Diego, where it is not unheard of to wear shorts during most of the winter, you will probably understand my point. I don't "do" cold. Give me one of these 35 C/95 F days anytime. You can keep the cold!

However, since I have chosen to live in Jerusalem, and not along Israel's Mediterranean coast, I have no choice but to "deal with" the cold of Jerusalem's winter.

View from my balcony:
The lights on the sukkah still haven't been taken down, and are collecting snow.

Last year's snow storm began on a Thursday morning, and continued through Shabbath. Travel within Jerusalem, on Sunday and Monday, was challenging, to say the least. Bus service was delayed during the early morning to avoid travel on iced over streets. Plus, just like every time it snows in Jerusalem, travel was always further complicated by everyone and his cousin coming into the city from Tel-Aviv, in order to see and enjoy the novelty of the snow.

While those of you living in New York, Chicago, or Montreal maybe rolling your eyes, I must emphasize that since snow is still a relatively rare occurrence in Jerusalem, the municipality does not see it as economically feasible to invest in the kind of equipment other cities around the world use daily throughout the winter. Instead, last year, we were told to stock up, and stay off of the streets. The city's economy might be stung, but accidents would be avoided.

Screen Shot: Live Kotel Cam
9 Teveth, 5774/December 12, 2013, 12:30 PM

My boss called me that fateful Thursday morning, and told me not to bother to come into work. Already out and about, I took the opportunity to stock up on food for the weekend and beyond, having in mind to purchase some food which would not require any cooking,...just in case.

However, if the power had gone out, I would have not have had any idea what I would do for heat. Even my awesome camping sleeping bag would leave me with a chill to keep me up most of the night. I had tried it out, so I already knew. Always test out your equipment!

Nevertheless, according to the chatter I heard after the storm had passed, I was much better prepared than most. I heard one man talking about how worried he was during the storm, that the food in his refrigerator would go bad, because thy did not have any power. Apparently, this man failed to notice all of the freezing cold white stuff laying around, which he could have shoveled into a bucket, and used to keep his perishables from perishing. Of course, he noticed the snow, but did not put two and two together.

Fortunately, one friend of mine who lives north of Jerusalem, thought to turn on all of the gas burners in his kitchen before Shabbath,* as they had lost electricity during the storm. He stationed his wife's bed there for her and their week-old newborn son. He and his daughters took every sweater, jacket, and blanket they owned, and camped out in another bedroom.

I have heard that a great many people become injured, or even die, from panic, and lack of preparation, than from the actual crisis or event itself. Even my friend who spent the night, this snowy Shabbath, had to remind me to fill up several bottles with water, from the faucet in the event that the freezing temperatures would cause pipes to burst, or affect our water supply in some other way.

One would think that such ideas would come to those of you in New York, Chicago, Canada, and Russia, quite naturally, just like knowing what to do in the event of an earthquake, and being prepared in advance for such an occasion is second hat to most Californians. However, that does not seem to be the case after all. Perhaps, we have become so dependent on technology, that our "thinking caps" have become impaired, when left without it.



Remember

Ask others with more experience that you. In mind case that mean learning about "layering," and the importance of wearing a hat, from a friend from Maryland. Likewise, during the summer months, I suggest to my roommate from upstate New York that he try jumping into the shower briefly, or just running the water on his neck for a few minutes.

Test Run
A few months ago, the power went out for a couple of hours. I was amazed that people did not know what to do with themselves, unless of course, they had a full battery on their computers and independent access to the Internet.

Lighting candles and reading a book, or going for a walk never would have occurred to them, except for maybe when their batteries ran out.

Recently, on a Friday, my power went out, while in the middle of cooking for Shabbath. I forgot where I heard this joke, but it is priceless:
Q: What does a 'prepper' call a power outage?

A: Practice.
Sure enough, I got some practice, as well as a friendly reminder to get my act in gear, and acquire what I have, so far, only been thinking about acquiring.

Truth be told, most of my cooking was done. I had only the meat left to prepare. As I knew that my local grocery store was open, I jaunted over to buy some charcoal, something which I really should have had on hand anyway. This experience also reminded me to get that gas canister I keep telling myself to get for cooking back-up, as well heating in an absolute pinch.

Well, once again, I lucked out. An electrician friend of mine was in the area, so he came over to sort everything out. My electric oven apparently was the culprit which tripped the electrical board. I would really prefer to have gas cooking appliances. But, as a renter, I have what I have.

For the coming winter, I hope to stop procrastinating, and buy a canister of gas to have on hand for back-up, if for nothing else. The gas canister can also be used for heat, in a pinch. Attachments can been bought which direct and diffuse the heat. But, I have been warned that it is not the heating system for use on Shabbath, without a proper gas heater hooked up to it.

I have even thought of the possibility of acquiring a wood burning stove, even just a small one for back up.

I have been, but must still confirm, that kerosene  heaters made for the indoors have been made illegal, for the populace's "own good." So, the option here would be finding a used one whose owner would be willing to part with. Kerosene  heaters made for outdoor use, are just that, made for outdoor use. As far as I understand, it is really not a good idea to use them indoors.

Jerusalem sits 800 plus meters in elevation. That is about 2,600 feet. It never gets within a few degrees below 0 C (32 F). If you are inside at night without heat during such temperatures, with all of your sweaters and jackets and blankets piled on, chances are that you will more likely than not, survive the night, Just like my friend and his family, I mentioned above did. But, what if you have small children or babies or elderly at home?


As part of my preparation for the coming winter, I have tried to talk about it with friends, particularly those with more experience than I when it comes to snowy winters. When I first moved to the East Coast, after living my entire life in California, a friend of mine who grew up in the Northeast, had to point out to me various things about living through the winter, I never would have thought of, everything from a hat, gloves, and thermal underwear, to layering clothing. I probably would have never thought of these things on my own.

Unforntunately, my experience, so far, has been that nobody wants to talk about the coming winter, let alone getting "prepped" for different case scenarios, such as power outages.

According to IsraelWeather.co.il, snow is expected in Jerusalem, this January. So, hopefully, as we get closer to Jerusalem, snow potential, my neighbors will become more amenable to such discussions.

Stay tuned!

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*The Torah forbids Jews from creating, transferring, and extinguishing of fire on Shabbath. The addition and subtraction of fuel is also forbidden to Jews on Shabbath.

Sunday, October 05, 2014

You Are Not A Therapist!

י״א לחודש השביעי תשע״ה

This post offers some of my personal experience to English-speaking psychotherapists immigrating to Israel, or already here, and who intend to work with English speaking clients. Let this serve as a warning as to what you will be up against.

To those therapists operating with some of the "odd" and unethical practices I list and describe below, and to those individuals believing themselves to be therapists, when they are actually not, perhaps this piece will inspire you to do teshuvah (repentance), particularly during this week right after Yom Kippur.

For the purposes of this piece "qualified psychotherapist," will be defined by the following standards:

1. The minimum of a Master's degree in a mental health related field.
2. The minimum of a Master's degree from a school's program, recognized by at least one professional organization, in or even outside of Israel (eg. אגודת פסיכולוגים קליניים, האיגוד הישראלי לפסיכותרפיה, איגוד העובדים הסוציאליים, APA, AAMFT, NASW, NASP, etc.).
3. One who is licensed, credentialed, or certified, or eligible to become one of the above, based on coursework and supervised training.

I believe these standards to be minimal, and have stated them to be as lenient as possible.

Coaches are coaches. Laypeople are laypeople.

Counselors are counselors, and not necessarily psychotherapists. Counselors put on bandages, replace bandages, sometimes even provide alternatives to bandages. They only irrigate the wounds if it is within their training and scope of their practice.

Psychotherapists do surgery, minor or major, according to that which is within their training and scope of their practice.  

This is not to say that counselors, coaches, and even laypeople cannot be "therapeutic." They are simply not therapists.

Buy My Book!
I saw an episode of a television show once, in which a therapist, before beginning her session with a couple, suggested that the couple buy her book.

The sad part was that except for the obligatory comedic punchline at the end of the therapy session, the fictional therapist wasn't half bad.

But, the main point here is the potential conflict of interest in encouraging clients to buy your book. Would they feeling intimidated, guilted, manipulated into buying it? Is the book absolutely necessary to their treatment? Sure, I suppose a therapist could give clients "homework," and sure that homework could be based on the therapist's book. But, there is a slippery slope here, one to be navigated with caution.

Well,...I'm a Rabbi...
Regarding the many members of the clergy who serve in counseling roles. Some are particularly good at it, and some are not. Still, those members of the clergy who seem to have a knack for counseling, are good at, because they recognize not only their own personal strengths, but their limitations as well.

During my graduate studies, I had some contact with two fellow students, one, a Catholic nun, a year ahead of me in her studies, and another, a Christian minister in a parallel program. Both seemed to be very sharp, and had strong theoretical backing to support their approach to treatment, something which I strongly believe to be problematic when absent.

This is most certainly not meant to be an attack, nor even a criticism on members of the clergy, as long as they are working within their role/assigned position, and have been properly trained for role/assigned position.

Once I entered a crowded cafe. I had to ask to share a total stranger's table, not uncommon in Israel. We introduced ourselves to one another, and chatted briefly. When he said that he was a therapist, I immediately asked him where he studied. His response, though, was, "Well, I'm a rabbi...."

I was taken aback. I pursued the issue with, "Well, what's your training?"

His response to this query was, "Both of my parents are therapists."

At that point, I did what I could to close the conversation politely.

Now, in all fairness to this individual, he may actually be a qualified psychotherapist. Perhaps his his degrees, training and experience far surpass my own. Yet, for some reason. But, my experience warns me not to be optimistic. However, based only on the information I received within the span of our brief conversation, I would certainly not consider him to be a psychotherapist.

You should only be treated with MY therapeutic approach. All others are useless.
Funny, I was always taught that "should" statements were irrational beliefs. But, what do I know, right?

Talk about a conflict of interest!

(See also "Referrals? What are those?" below.)

All you need is MY six month course to be a therapist.
I was so shocked to hear that such a statement was made, I cannot even begin to write about this practice with a high level of potential for damage to the mental health of the English speaking public, here in Jerusalem and surrounds...

Would someone please tell me what the heck Clinical Sociology is?
"A subfield of public sociology is applied sociology, also known as clinical sociology or sociological practice, which applies knowledge derived from sociological research to solve societal problems."

OK. So, how does this qualify clinical sociologists as psychotherapists? Counselors, maybe. But, psychotherapists? Unless, of course, this degree could be used as some sort of front for getting around professional scrutiny? Just a thought...

I will leave this one as it is,...for now.

Referrals? What are those?
If I am unable to treat a client, either because I know that I will not be effective in doing so, not probably trained in the particular area of mental health practice required, or even if I am simply not taking on any new clients, I will refer the client to another therapist. My rule of thumb is to provide a list of at least three therapists. I will not just include those who share my theoretical orientation on this list of referrals, either, especially if I am uncertain as to this prospective clients present issue, or for that matter, the real issue or issues requiring attention.

Some people believing themselves to be therapists will unconsciously, or not so unconsciously, miss the boat when it comes to differentiating between genuine "resistance" and the caregiver's own inability to help the client effectively, if at at.

Unfortunately, parnassah (financial support) can be the culprit, blinding them from the truth (See Deut. 16:19). Yet, parnassah is the worst excuse of them all, and not to be tolerated. This care provider will at best, get lucky, and help someone solve a minor problem, or at worst, cause major, even potentially irreparable damage.

When I had finished graduate school, and moved back to my hometown of San Diego, I wanted to continue my own psychotherapy, I had begun inup north, I called the San Diego Association of Psychologists' [SDAP] referral line. The volunteer on the phone asked me to tell her about my interest in finding a therapist. I told her that I wanted to continue my therapy, and added that I was looking for a therapist with a particular theoretical orientation, and who specialized in working with other therapists.

She tentatively included her name on the list. I write tentatively, as she was concerned with even the appearance of a conflict of interest, serving on the referral line in order to add to her own client base. Yet, when I looked her up in the SDAP's members list, I found that she did, indeed, foot the bill of the requirements I stated to her. Nevertheless, she included a fourth referral, and put her name last on the list. I am not sure how better one could have handled the situation, save for silence regarding her practice. However, what if she did turn out to be the best therapist for me? I would have missed out on the opportunity, if she had been silent.

And probably these most insidious, most dangerous, and and most confusing issue facing therapists, both real and fake....

Profession Competence
The topic heading thus far could also be place under this one, "professional competence."

My favorite pet peeve has yet to be listed, and so it will be stated now. It is one in which even well-meaning, really therapists and counselors cross the line, and that is interpreting assessment results, for assessment devices for which he or she has not had the proper training to do so. And quite frankly one graduate course in assessment in simply not sufficient to interpret the Stanford-Binet or Wechsler scales, let alone the Thematic Apperception Test [TAT] or Rorschach. Of the Rorschach test, some have suggested said that it be applied only under supervision for five years. That may sound a bit extreme to some. But, it will hopefully send home the message that assessment devices are not things which can be picked up and used by anyone. And they are most certainly not toys.

Are you an "addictions counselor?" I know several, and some of them are excellent! I believe that is mainly because they deal with "addictions," and they recognize that they are "counselors." They are not marriage therapists, educational psychologists, nor psychiatrists; they are "addictions counselors."

The same goes for "coaches," probably the most out of control, unmonitored profession there is today. Some coaches are excellent. Here is one of my favorites, Dawna Walter from the BBC reality show "Life Laundry," in which she not only helps people declutter their homes, teaches them strategies to stay declutter, and helps them deal with the emotional issues surrounding their clutter and cluttering behavior. In my opinion, her work is definitely therapeutic, but she is not a therapist, and does not try to be one. She stays within her training, experience, and scope of practice.


Unfortunately, not all coaches maintain the same professional ethics that Dawna Walter does, and end up doing a great deal of damage, without having a clue that they have done so.

Dual Role Relationships
You would be amazed, and perhaps even as disgusted as I am, at just how many "therapists" I have encountered, who are completely ignorant of this concept.
Dual relationship 
From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

In the mental health field, a dual relationship is a situation where multiple roles exist between a therapist, or other mental health practitioner, and a client.[1] Dual relationships are also referred to as multiple relationships, and these two terms are used interchangeably in the research literature.[1][2] The American Psychological Association (APA) Ethical Principles of Psychologists and Code of Conduct (also referred to as the APA ethics code[3]) is a resource that outlines ethical standards and principles to which practitioners are expected to adhere. Standard 3.05 of the APA ethics code outlines the definition of multiple relationships. Dual or multiple relationships occur when:
  • a professional and personal relationship take place simultaneously between the psychologist and the client
  • the psychologist has a relationship with a person closely related to or connected to their client
  • the psychologist has intentions to enter into a future relationship with the client or someone closely related to the client
In addition, the standard provides a description of when to avoid multiple relationships (e.g., when the relationship causes harm to the client or impairs the psychologist's competence) and when these relationships are not considered unethical (e.g., when the relationship does not exploit the client or impair competence).[4][5][6]
Before you get too excited about those instances when a duel role relationships are not considered unethical, the citations above lead to professional journal articles related to practice in RURAL areas, in order words, when the duty to treat may override a dual role relationship, which has minor implications regarding the impairment of the service providers effectiveness. Last time I checked, Jerusalem was not considered "rural," just loaded with English-speakers calling themselves therapists, who are hard up for work, and who lack the sophisticated level of language skills necessary to work with native Hebrew speakers.

Informed Consent
That's right! Not only must a therapist receive consent from a prospective client, before assessing and/or treating that client. But, the therapist must provide information related to the structure of the assessment and treatment, such as confidentiality. The prospective client [in the State of California, for example] is entitled to know the therapist's education and training, licenses and certifications, and theoretical orientation. So, don't be surprised if a prospective client asks such questions. It is his right.

If you do not have the answers, then you have no business doing what you are doing.

Not only that, but "informed consent" does NOT mean checking out, what you might think to be "analyzing," friends' prospective dates or roommates or employees WITHOUT their knowledge.

Client Endorsement
Ethical or not, I believe this practice to be damnable.

Imagine a therapist who advertises, and has endorsements from clients listed, even anonymously, on his advertisement or brochure. In fact, let's assume, for the sake of argument, that these clients volunteered to provide their therapist with an endorsement, without being solicited.

Let us go a step further, and say that said therapist announces such endorsements at a speaking engagement

What? At the very least, this "therapist" never thought of the implications this would have in the client's therapy? What about the conflict of interest?

Anna Freud might call this a form of "acting-out" of therapy, on the part of the client. I hate to ask what she might say that the therapist was doing.

Of course, if you are not really a therapist, then you have nothing to worry about, do you? All you have to do is to stop calling yourself a therapist.

The Israeli Ministry of Health is overwhelmed, and for the most part, lacks the necessary resources to monitor such individuals, real therapists crossing ethical lines, and fake therapists, leaving a trail of damage, often untraceable and unprovable.

You can see that this list of headings of potential problems here is endless.

I will assume that many of the fake psychotherapists out there have good intentions. However, this reminds me of the proverb...

"The road to hell was paved with good intentions."

Of those real psychotherapists out there, doing one or more of the above, you have absolutely no excuse.

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A note on gishur:

After posting the above, I had an afterthought of sorts. What about Gishur?

Roughly translated, gishur is bridge-building, and is used to describe work often done with couples, to assist them with communication.

I have met both members of clergy and attorneys who are very skilled in this work, even though they are trained in gishur, and not in any other type of counseling. Of course, like any in profession, there is always the potential for the appearance of bad apples.

Those I have met also acknowledge that they are not therapists, nor try to be, and would refer couples to qualified therapists when the need arises. I hope that this includes sexual issues, which are often overlooked, even though marital relations are integral part of a couple's communication, not to mention a deep component of their relationship. I do not know the extent of the training these professionals receive regarding sexual issues, hopefully enough to pick up on the subtle hints members of a couple may reveal that something needs to be addressed in this area.

Sexual therapy is a specialty often underrated, one in which not all psychotherapists have been sufficiently trained work with clients with sexual dysfunction.

Friday, September 19, 2014

The U. S. Government Wants to Tell to Psychotherapists how to do Psychotherapy

ערב שבת קודש פר׳ נצבים-וילך תשע״ד

WND: Pro-'gay' courts muck up meaning of 'free speech'
Rulings in change-therapy dispute sets up likely trip to Supremes

Two appeals courts have disagreed on how to define “speech,” setting up a likely challenge to the U.S. Supreme Court over “change therapy” counseling, which aims to relieve unwanted same-sex attractions.

It’s illegal now in California and New Jersey for minors to receive such therapy, but for different reasons, warranting intervention by the highest court, argues Liberty Counsel.

California was the first state to make such therapy illegal for minors. The 9th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals concluded the therapy, which mostly involves talking, is “conduct” rather than speech.

But when New Jersey made the therapy illegal for minors, the 3rd Circuit U.S. Court of Appeals determined it is speech but concluded it is not protected by the First Amendment.

“The laws banning counseling in this area are simply unconstitutional violations of free speech,” asserted Mat Staver, chairman of Liberty Counsel. (cont.)

Esser Agaroth (2¢):
As a psychotherapist who is not a fan of "reparative therapy," I am still very much against any laws banning or limiting the providing of such treatment.

This is not because I believe that there are a few men and women out there who may benefit from working with psychotherapists, experienced in reparative therapy. (And I do believe this.)

Personally, my experience is that some such individuals, presenting same sex attraction [SSA] were never "gay" to begin with. The nature versus nurture debate, in other words, "why" a patient presents one sexual orientation or another, is irrelevant here. An experienced therapist, whether oriented (pun intended) toward reparative therapy or not, will know to be prepared for anything that a patient may bring into the therapy, and will also know to change his original, therapeutic strategy if necessary, or refer the patient to another therapist.

If reparative therapists want to claim such patients as "success" stories, then so be it.

Whether or not reparative therapists can any evidence to support the effectiveness of the form of therapy is a discussion for another time.

And, by the way, I do not see why any true GLBTQ activist would not want heterosexuals to be able to explore and discover their own, "true" nature, and through such clarity, self-understanding, and happiness, just as they expect to be allowed to "embrace" their own true nature, and to pursue happiness.

So, why fight reparative therapy at all? My guess is because it is unpopular and controversial, thus making it a prime target.

My fellow psychotherapists, the general public, and apparently, various officials in the U. S. Government are concerned that one form of therapy or another may actually be harmful to patients, a valid concern for certain. Where should the line be drawn? More importantly, who should be the one to drawn the line?

Even some forms of confrontational therapies used in prisons and in the military could be considered "abusive." Yet, some professions believe these to be the most effective and therapeutic approach toward the treatment of some character disorders (eg. sociopathy). The brick wall needs to be demolished, before a more flexible structure can be built back up in its place.

In my experience, damage to patients is done when professionals violate their own ethical guidelines, apply techniques which are not within their training and scope of practice, and, of course, those who are not professionals to begin with. As far as the last example on the list goes, the government can have at them, but only after the relevant professional organization(s) get the first crack at them.

The battle against reparative therapy goes beyond freedom of speech. This goes beyond the pushing of one agenda or another through the courts. This is about government chipping away at individual freedoms.

This is about government deciding what forms of therapeutic treatment will be made available to the public, and which treatments our not.

This is about government telling professionals what form of therapeutic treatment they are allowed, or not allowed to provide.

How is a government of non-therapists qualified to make such decisions? Even if it had countless professional consultants, is this the sort of decision a government should be making in the first place?

How will this be policed? Will records be subpoenaed?

In conclusion, I would like to reiterate my position.

I am not "pro"-reparative therapy. This form of therapy should continue to be scrutizied, and those who provide such therapy should continue to be encouraged to provide support for its continued practice, just like all other therapeutic techniques. Only in this way, can therapeutic techniques undergo continuous evaluation of their effectiveness, and prospective patients can receive the necessary information to make informed choices about psychotherapeutic treatment

I am against governments interfering with patients' choice.

I am against governments telling professionals how they should, or should not, practice their professions.

Let psychotherapists be guided by their peers, by their respective professional organizations, when it comes to forms of treatments, and, if need be, ethical challenges,...just like we have already been doing.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Where Should my Payos (Side Locks) Go? In Front or in Back?

ט"ז לחודש התשעי תשע"ד

Life In Israel: Rav Chaim Kanievsky says wearing peyos in front of ears will give good health
November 17, 2013

I need some help here...

A yeshiva bochur who has bad health conditions went to Rav Chaim Kanievsky asking for a bracha.

Rav Kanievsky told him that if he would take his peyos out from behind his ears and keep them in front, he would be healed.

This yeshiva bochur later went to Rav Shteinman and asked the same - a bracha for his health, and mentioned that Rav Kanievsky had told him to wear his peyos out front, though he said he is embarrassed to do so.

Rav Shteinman said he should not be embarrassed but should wear his peyos out front, as instructed by Rav Chaim Kanievsky, the "Minister of Torah", and he will have good health because of it.

Rav Chaim's opinion seems to be known that peyos should be worn in front of the ears, and people should not be embarrassed by their Jewish appearance. (cont.)

(source: Kikar and Bechadrei - though Bechadrei  relates the story slightly differently)

Esser Agaroth (2¢):
I have heard that their are Qabbalistic reasons for putting payos behind the ears, not allowing the hair of the head to touch the spiritual hair of the beard. This has never made sense to me, since most hassidim keep their payos upfront, apparently without such fear, and they most certainly take Qabbalah under serious consideration with regards to custom.

I have also heard some say that they put behind their payos behind their ears, simply because they can get in the way.

As you know, I am not the biggest fan of segulos. So, when these highly respected rabbis suggest that arranging ones payos* (or simanim*to the Yemenites) will have a positive influence on ones physical health, I am skeptical.

Payos in front of the ear, or in back of the ear,
that is the question.

Mental health is another story. And as such, I believe that there is definitely something in what these gedolim say.

"Rav Shteinman said he should not be embarrassed but should wear his peyos out front, as instructed by Rav Chaim Kanievsky...."

We are Jews, living in Eretz Yisra'el, the [only true] Jewish Homeland. In which other lands are the people embarrassed to wear traditional clothing and hairstyles? I cannot think of any.

Only in Israel, where the influence of about 2,000 years of galuth (exile) still prevails, do we seem to have this problem,...or rather, problems.

1. Collective low self-esteem, reflected in "embarrassment" over appearance, and preferring the "castrated"/hidden, payos look, over "prominent" payos(Note: Non-analytically oriented psychotherapists, please humor me here. Fake therapists, it's time to stop that anxiety-provoked giggling, and go back for more training.)
a. I wonder how this is reflected in the differences in marital relationships between those communities which are predominantly "in front of" and those which are "in back of." Feminism has clearly snuck in through the backdoor of many Litvish and Modern Orthodox communities, particular the English-speaking ones. It is nor longer pashut as to who "wears the pants" in the family,...in some cases, literally so.
b. Perhaps this is also reflected in miqwah/mikveh behavior. However, I cannot be sure. Most, but not all, of the "in front of"'s follow the custom of not covering oneself in the miqwah, showing that we are not embarrassed by our brith milah of Avraham Avinu. Do the "in back of"'s tend to be those uptight ones in the miqwah? Like I said, I cannot be sure.
2. Collective co-dependence, reflected in how we view ourselves through the eyes of the goyim, and seek their validation, rather than producing it internally.

How we dress and style or cover our hair, are only two of the symptoms of these psychological conditions.

There are more.

I will conclude this somewhat serious piece with a not so serious conclusion.

I once witnessed a hassidishe friend of mine from Me'ah She'arim criticizing his grandson for arranging his payos behind his ear...

If you keep them that way, they will end up looking like question marks.

Sure, I know that his reaction was the response of American parents to their children making unattractive faces at others: "If you do that enough, your face will stay that way."

Nevertheless, we can learn something from this. Hassidim are often accused of living galuth (exile) mode. Yet, wearing their payos in front of their ears, clearly runs against the grains of fear of the goyim and desires to assimilate amongst them.

As Jews, if we have questions, we should ask them, rather than keep them buried inside to fester, only manifesting themselves through a permanent imprint in our hairstyles.

Food for thought.

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*payos: Yid. (Heb. payot) "corners"
**simanim: Heb. -"signs"

Friday, September 27, 2013

World Trend: Countries Protecting their Systems of Indoctrination

אסרו חג העצרת תשע"ד

I frightening trend has been manifesting itself on the world scene. However, it is far from being a new trend. World Net Daily [WND] reports on it. Here are some of the highlights:
WND: Frightening new assault on homeschooling
[Dutch] Education chief: Parents should not be allowed to teach

Bob Unruh, September 25, 2013

1. Among major democratic nations, homeschooling already is banned in Germany, under a Hitler-era law, and in Sweden, where authorities have taken offspring out of their family’s arms to crack down on the educational method.

2. Scotland is taking a different approach, demanding that all children be assigned a “nanny” at birth to make sure they get educated. [This means that] the government is proposing a plan that  “would assign a government social worker to ‘promote, support or safeguard the wellbeing’ of every child from birth.” That “named person” would have great authority to order what the child – and parents – must do throughout life, regarding schooling, health, social activities and the like.

3. Now officials in the Netherlands are looking to join the crackdown on parents.

4. A report from the Examiner has listed nations where homeschooling also is illegal, including mostly socialist-leaning or former communist territories. They include Albania, Andorra, Armenia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Bosnia, Brazil, Croatia, Cuba, Cyprus, El Salvador, Georgia, Greece, Greenland, Guatemala, Kazakhstan, Latvia, Liechtenstein, Lithuania, Macedonia, Malta, Moldova, Montenegro, San Marino, Serbia, Slovakia, Trinidad and Tobago and Turkey.

5. The Obama administration has argued in court that parents essentially have no right to determine how and what their children are taught, leaving the authority with the government.

6. “I want the American homeschool community and other friends of liberty to take note – this mindset isn’t limited to Germany. Many U.S. policymakers and academics agree. … They are even working to see them realized here. So far, thankfully, homeschooling isn’t a legitimate reason (anymore) for the government to kidnap your children if they don’t go to state approved schools,”
- Michael Farris, Chairman, Home School Legal Defense Association [HSLDA]

7. [There are] “already too many voices in the United States that want to advance the idea that the state must control education for the safety of the state or other reasons.”
- Michael Donnelly, director of international relations, HSLDA

8. “And this is the same rationale of the German government in perpetrating deplorable acts like this,” he said. “Why should we think it couldn’t or won’t happen here?”
- Michael Farris

9. “Can’t a government that can order you to get health care tell you that you don’t qualify for certain life-saving treatments, tell parents they can’t allow their children to get certain kinds of counseling or that they must have a particular kind of medical treatments or that certain religious speech is intolerant and may not be permitted or must be punished, or that only national curricular standards are acceptable for all children, etc. – can’t a government like that order you to send your children to school? And then punish you if you don’t?
- Michael Donnelly

Esser Agaroth (2¢):
I believe that this piece really speaks for itself. I will add only a few personal observations and professional experiences.

As a school psychologist in the California public schools, I saw first hand how children were expected to fit into a box. I'll never forget when I when I asked to observe a child in his Kindergarten classroom, because while standing with the other children, singing the ABC song, he was double tapping his feet. The teacher found this quite disturbing, and was almost ready to cry "ADD." I, on the other hand, was almost ready to cry, "So what if he's tapping his feet. Get over it!" I knew that this teacher would simply not hear it. Even after only a couple of hours in the classroom, I was pretty sure that this kid was a kinesthetic learner, and not the disruptive student and burgeoning sociopath this Kindergarten teacher was making him out to be.

"Sheeple" (Sheep + People)
But, fitting children in neat little boxes was from the worst thing that could have been done to them. Sitting still, absorbing information fed to them, and refraining from questioning authority are only a few which I personally recall. Being kept in numbed out, within the illusion of having "freedom" and a "say in government policy" through elections were the masterpieces I can now see in retrospect.

To get a better picture of children's learning styles, and how they fit in, or rather, how they are not allowed to fit into the "traditional" American classroom, I recommend reading the very short story Animal School, attributed to George H. Reavis, Assistant Superintendent of Schools in Cincinnati, Ohio (1940's).

This brings me to Israel. In a nutshell, those of us in Israel need to be aware, and to keep watch over government crackdowns on homeschooling, independent, alternative, and semi-private educational institutions. As a teacher in Israel's public religious and secular schools, I saw that the indoctrination process simply has different appearance than that in the U. S. The goals are the similar, though:
1) Increase and maintain citizens' trust in the State.

2) Increase and maintain citizens' loyalty to the State, through reward, as well punishment.

3) Discourage independent thinking, and loyalty to anything else besides the State and its laws, including The Almighty, and His Torah.
Sitting still and absorbing information is not the Israeli focus, when it comes to indoctrination into a loyalist society. In the religious schools, students ask questions, and are encouraged to do so. But, the answers are all in line with government policy, or else that teacher does not last very long. In high schools, the government is sometimes presented as correct. This is when any mass opposition is expected. When the government is presented as being flawed, this is immediately followed with the need to respond with patience and love, and to remember that The Almighty's hand was in the forming of the State. The fact that the State's constant battle against the Torah is staring these teachers and students right in the face simply falls by the waste side, and parents allow it to remain so.

The State is to be held in such high regard, even if it appears to be leading Am Yisra'el down a path toward communal suicide. Civil disobedience is out of the question, and an soldier can never refuse to carry out an order which violates the Torah, because the students and future soldiers are that there is just no such thing. They are taught that it is all just "part of the path toward ge'ulah (final redemption)." (sigh)

In the secular schools, attempts at removing all Holiness from the Tana"kh (Bible) is the order of the day.

Now you know why Haredim are so protective of their school systems. Whether they are not simply doing the same thing with their communities, to "keep them in line," and whether they should be taking any money from the State of Israel in order to fund them are discussions for future posts.

Of course, there are parents, those who can afford it, who send their children to private schools, semi-private schools, even Haredi schools, not to mention those who go to battle with the Ministry of Education for the "right" to home school their children. The harassment some of these parents receive is truly unbelievable.

Threats from the Ministry, threats from the front line soldiers, the State's social workers are regular occurrences, all in the name of making certain that Israeli children receive a "proper" education, emphasis on the word "proper." What "proper" means, is determined by the government, not the parents, and certainly not by rabbis, who have been demonized for their "disloyalty" to the State.